I think I am pretty awesome ♥
I really hope you feel the same way about yourself as I do about me! I have been thinking about writing this post for quite a while now as I want to share my thoughts with you with regards to self esteem and self worth as I believe this is something that a lot of people have issues with. I see myself as a happy confident individual with a positive outlook on life and a pretty smile!
I will tell you my secrets to confidence and self worth however I would first like to take you on a little journey with me. Meet Olivia, aged 18.
I may be smiling in this photograph, however at this time in my life I had very little confidence and self worth. I was overweight, I didn’t go out socially very often and I was in an emotionally abusive relationship. I thought I was fat and ugly. I had a very bizarre relationship with food. I didn’t think I was good enough I guess. I won’t dwell on this time of my life for too long, only to say that I was basically, the opposite of what I am today.
I believe we are all on our own journeys, physically, emotionally and spiritually. My journey has had ups and downs, twists and turns but I am always moving in the right direction. Thankfully, I have come a very long way since I was 18.
How have I developed confidence and self worth?
I decided I was pretty!
I could not tell you when exactly this happened but there was a pretty colossal shift in the way I viewed myself. I decided that I liked the way I looked and I was happy with that.
I began running when I was 20. To say it changed my life was an understatement. During / after a run I always feel like the most epic person! Before I started running I never really felt like my body could actually DO anything. Now I know it can! Running may not be your cup of tea but if you try some sports you are sure to find an activity that makes you feel amazing 😀
If you know me well,. you will know that I love spending time with people. But I also NEED me time! A little time alone to reflect on life, chill, think, breathe. I love spending time on my own, I need alone time for my mental health! I also chose to prioritise my own needs over others, because I matter. I value my own health over that of anybody else’s. I value my time. You should matter most to you! Pamper yourself and make yourself feel good on the daily.
Eat a vibrant plant based diet.
I eat a plant based diet which includes a lot of raw organic fruits and veggies! It is hard not to feel vibrant when you are eating so many alive high vibration foods. If you are eating processed beige foods you are probably not going to feel your best. Your body is your Ferrari, give it the best fuel possible 😉
Do things that make you happy ♥
Don’t worry about what other people think, the only opinion that matters is your own. Find a new hobby or dedicate more time to existing hobbies. Spend time with your favourite people, spend time in nature, jump into a freezing cold lake! Whatever makes you happy! Just do it.
I used to be a bit of a square and a bit of a worry wart. I chose to let go of anxieties. I no longer sweat the small stuff. Because life is simply too short. I don’t tend to worry about much and I feel a lot happier for not worrying! I am a bit daft and I like to play, what’s the point in living if you’re not having fun?
Love your body ♥
I used to place a huge importance on my weight and this was closely linked to my self esteem. Now, I literally could not give a sh*t about how much I weigh as it does not matter to me. My body weight has self regulated through my lifestyle changes and for the first time in my life I feel truly comfortable in my own skin. I actually think I look pretty good in the buff! I threw away my bathroom scales a few years ago and I think it is one of the best decisions I ever made. I used to weigh myself daily and my mood that day would be related to what the number on the scale said, which is obviously insane! Back to present day, I feel so comfortable in my own skin now that this even happened;
Yup, that’s me. Riding through Manchester city centre in the day time..! The blurry message painted on my back said, ‘Love who you are.’ I think that is a pretty important message to send out into the world.
I hope you are all feeling confident and truly value yourselves. If this is something you are struggling with I hope this post may help you! What makes you feel confident?